There's no shame in taking care of your mental health | Sangu Delle

  • katma 26 May 2017
  • When stress got to be too much for TED Fellow Sangu Delle, he had to confront his own deep prejudice: that men shouldn't take care of their mental health. In a personal talk, Delle shares how he learned to handle anxiety in a society that's uncomfortable with emotions. As he says: "Being honest about how we feel doesn't make us weak - it makes us human."
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  • sophiiieee96
    sophiiieee96 20 gün önce
    Hello, I am a 3rd year student and have recently made a short film about male mental health. Suicide is heartbreaking for the individual suffering and their loved ones. I hope this film allows men to feel less alone and to get help. Thank you

  • Michael Cho
    Michael Cho 2 aylar önce


  • J. Fulani
    J. Fulani 4 aylar önce

    Mental health issues are easily at the top of our community’s list of issues. Of course, the historical backdrop of the slave trade and slavery should not be overlooked. However, once we move closer to the present, we have to look at our families. So much trauma. So much inter-generational trauma. Sadly, we carry that trauma into adulthood and, knowingly or unknowingly, we pass the trauma onto to our children. Black girls get raped, for example. That is a serious trauma. Then, they grow up and have children. For whatever reason, the couple separates. Millions of our children are trapped in the middle of high conflict divorces and end up being forced to “choose sides.” In too many instances, black fathers are alienated from their children. The children grow up with their own mental health issues, thereby continuing this viscous cycle. I think the mental health issues surrounding parental alienation is a good place to begin some serious research, dialogue, and therapy. Read up on Ade. Craig Childress. He has videos on TRclips. Otherwise, the NOI has one of the best rehabilitation programs hands down.

  • RTGUltimateInstinc
    RTGUltimateInstinc 5 aylar önce

    If only chester listened to your advice maybe we wouldnt lose him.;(

  • DA040889
    DA040889 6 aylar önce

    Real talk, respect for the shining eyes of those who serv with passion.

  • Ashley Collier
    Ashley Collier 6 aylar önce

    Hello, great video! I was diagnosed with cptsd and bipolar disorder. I decided to write a book on it. I would love for you to do a review on the book. Let me know if you're interested. I also have an inspiration TRclips Channel that you can check out at Swatsquad101.

  • chriiisclm
    chriiisclm 7 aylar önce

    i am s t r u g g l i ng KAOS CARE C

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  • Casa da Psiquiatria
    Casa da Psiquiatria 7 aylar önce


  • Ramesh Kumaran
    Ramesh Kumaran 7 aylar önce

    Hardcore criminals are living better off than psychiatry patients here in India.Are there Indians working in your country.

  • Ramesh Kumaran
    Ramesh Kumaran 7 aylar önce

    It's as good as being dead.Its a disease that insults you every now and then.Injures you physically verbally psychologically.As far as psychiatry health Care is concerned I do not love this country at all.You cannot even vote or get the basic documents like opening a bank account a pan card get a job or get fired to be replaced by someone else.

  • Ramesh Kumaran
    Ramesh Kumaran 7 aylar önce

    As an Indian it's very difficult to face mental health illness.

  • Veronica Montano
    Veronica Montano 7 aylar önce

    Is the most sexy thing to do. Take care of yourself

  • Trew Fitness
    Trew Fitness 9 aylar önce

    This is amazing opening up about mental health is something we all need to do more! That is why i am swimming the channel this august! Facebook/Just Giving Jackswimsthechannel :-)
    I do talks every tuesday on mental health on my channel!

  • Trew Fitness
    Trew Fitness 9 aylar önce

    This is amazing opening up about mental health is something we all need to do more! That is why i am swimming the channel this august! Facebook/Just Giving Jackswimsthechannel :-)
    I do talks every tuesday on mental health on my channel!

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    Talk Therapy 9 aylar önce


  • Edwin Zuniga
    Edwin Zuniga Yıl önce

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    Hello I need some help but I do not want to go to the to the doctors because I will lose my job and my license to do my job as well as my driver's license for this here are my symptoms
    Suddenly developed Tourette's, auditory hallucination, hallucinating smells, severely reduced motor coordination, greatly reduced mental cognitivity,
    I have not had a head injury
    I do not drink or do drugs of any kind
    I have not had any sort of emotional trauma or Devastation in my family and was in perfect health previous
    I live in the country and I'm on well water but after this I stopped drinking the well water and bought bottled water right away to try to eliminate the problem if it is that which I somewhat dealt because my neighbors have not experienced anything similar and they're off the same ground wellsource I have not asked them I just would have figured I'd heard something about it if they were experiencing something like that. My possible thoughts of what could be causing this is heavy metals but I have no known as exposure. My next thought was that it could have been a form of food poisoning but it would not explain the symptoms getting gradually worse. I thought it could have been a mineral or vitamin deficiency but I have recently eliminated that possibility.
    Could this be caused by a stroke.
    A form of neural degeneration.
    Or brain cancer which I doubt.
    Exposure to heavy metals.

  • Alicia Morasse
    Alicia Morasse Yıl önce

    I appreciate this speech so much!

  • Hannah R
    Hannah R Yıl önce

    Even in America it’s hard to find a physiatrist I went months without being able to see anybody

  • Francesca B
    Francesca B Yıl önce

    Hey everyone please check out my new mental health website I'd love to connect with people on the subject and offer any help I can (BSc psych and currently doing MSc mental health).

  • Lighthouse Guidance
    Lighthouse Guidance Yıl önce

    Well done. Good for you!

  • Mark Gab
    Mark Gab Yıl önce +1

    I agree with this video because there really is nothing to be ashamed about taking care of your mental health. If you take care of your physical health, you should also take care of your mental health. Having a metal illness is not a joke and it should be treated immediately. Mental illnesses are a lot more common than you might think and a lot of people are suffering from it. I think it's only right to take care of your mental health since it has a big impact to your life. People are belittling mental health and I really hope that through this video people will be informed and that they won't think that mental health is just a minor thing.

  • Ama-Vee💋
    Ama-Vee💋 Yıl önce

    The change starts with conversations within our community. We have to stir the point of change. Embrace, eat it and share it amongst ourselves. Beautiful presentation. He bore no signs of shame. :)

  • DeathAngel
    DeathAngel Yıl önce

    thank you for saying what needed to be said.

  • Trauma Talk
    Trauma Talk Yıl önce

    The comments about his friend after they are diagnosed with schizophrenia are so common. But utterly heartbreaking.

  • Trauma Talk
    Trauma Talk Yıl önce

    This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this!

  • treasurecompanion
    treasurecompanion Yıl önce

    Just a reminder that here in the uk some teens / people failing to receive nhs psychological help "When they most need it" usually urgent ) some kids are being let down and parents are at their wits end. Teenagers are especially vulnerable and require professional URGENT help program. Great to talk about this subject still much to be done. Great talk here.

  • Megan Leah
    Megan Leah Yıl önce

    Check out my new channel please ♥️♥️ I would appreciate it so much

  • ifyouwantbochin
    ifyouwantbochin Yıl önce

    watching this after the Omid Djalili video on Nigerianitis.

  • Kyrell Pena
    Kyrell Pena Yıl önce

    Wonderful talk! Thank you so much for the rawness & honesty of this talk. 😊

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  • Adrianne P
    Adrianne P Yıl önce

    Beautifully articulated. Such an important message that impacts millions of people worldwide.

  • Bence Illes
    Bence Illes Yıl önce +1

    We need people like him in every african country.

  • R C
    R C Yıl önce

    "Being honest about how we feel does not make us weak, it makes us human" SO TRUE. Thank you Sangu Delle.

  • Ricky Pham
    Ricky Pham Yıl önce

    I'm known as the chill funny quirky guy but I'm always sad, I don't speak to anyone because I don't want them to treat me and see me differently because I'm sad, I want to be that funny guy everyone likes hanging out with not the guy that people have to speak nice words to, forced kindness is just as bad as actual mean remarks

  • AllThatJaz
    AllThatJaz Yıl önce

    love this

  • Samuel Lee
    Samuel Lee Yıl önce

    "our ignorance eviscerates our empathy"

  • arrington thomas
    arrington thomas Yıl önce +1

    Mental illness is real.

  • Philippa Ruddlesdin
    Philippa Ruddlesdin Yıl önce +3

    I know that i cannot entirally relate due to my circumstances, however as somebody who's diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, i found your talk so meaningful, especially when you spoke about being there for your friend, so many people are quick to judge and label people as crazy once they feel the label gives them license to. Great talk, thank you.

  • Caitlin Scherer
    Caitlin Scherer Yıl önce +1

    Very powerful, thanks!

  • Baba Best
    Baba Best Yıl önce

    the last line made my emotional man .. such brave words..woww !!!

  • Raquel Carlino
    Raquel Carlino Yıl önce

    excelllent , greetings from argentina!

  • skrrskrrr skr
    skrrskrrr skr Yıl önce +2

    this is honestly one of the best ted talks I've watched yet !!

  • Andy Griffin
    Andy Griffin Yıl önce +1

    Fantastic video. If you're scrolling through the comments to see if the video is worth it, this is your comment. It is.

  • Ultimate Warrior
    Ultimate Warrior Yıl önce

    The first Nigerian I've ever liked. Your country is full of annoying scammers.

  • Sajan Nair
    Sajan Nair Yıl önce +1

    beautiful! Thank you

  • Louise Hastings
    Louise Hastings Yıl önce

    These Ted talks are really good stuff.

  • Boris Brown
    Boris Brown Yıl önce

    Very well spoke. I agree, you are not weak when you express your emotions, you are being human.

  • Tykara Lang
    Tykara Lang Yıl önce

    An incredibly aware, honest and real talk. Very empowering.

  • Rafael Eliassen
    Rafael Eliassen Yıl önce +101

    "If we do this right, if we succeed, one day our grandchildren will look us in the eye and ask ‘You mean Africa used to be poor?"
    *-Sangu Delle* at the LSE Africa Summit 2016 - THIS is a powerful mental attitude :)

    • email Gmail
      email Gmail Yıl önce

      If or when?

    • Jeffy
      Jeffy Yıl önce

      Never thought I'd see you here Rafael, awesome that you watch ted. You should speak there yourself too!!!

    • imrandom
      imrandom Yıl önce

      Love your channel man!

  • Let's Do Better Now
    Let's Do Better Now Yıl önce +1

    People think that talking and dealing with mental health is something taboo but we all need help and should speak to somebody. This is a great video

  • Awareness Mastery
    Awareness Mastery Yıl önce +8

    Shame the modern image of masculinity tells us to suppress our emotions, it is only when we embrace our emotions that we become our masculine self

  • Aaron Bell
    Aaron Bell Yıl önce

    If I didn't fear the public health system would force drugs into me, I'd totally reach out for help!! Been there, done that. Would rather die than put descendants of chemical lobotomizers into my body...

  • WANI
    WANI Yıl önce +1

    trust african men not to stand up and clap at the end of this amazing speech lol smh

  • lu 偃桐 liu
    lu 偃桐 liu Yıl önce

    In my experience, i don't think family do really help. In many cases, family is also the one of the mainly reason of mental diseases. They do not believe their behavior can effort or cause our diseases directly. So if we decide to tell them, we may suffer more misunderstand, more painful in the early phase at least.

  • Christopher Allen
    Christopher Allen Yıl önce +6

    The more I find Nigerians speaking on social issues in their country, is the more I realize how much my country, Jamaica, and Nigeria are alike.
    "Somehow, when it comes to mental illness, our ignorance eviscerates our empathy."
    This was really a powerful presentation.

  • WhatBlueSoundsLike
    WhatBlueSoundsLike Yıl önce

    thank you for such a wonderful, open, and moving talk!

  • Carl Jeremie
    Carl Jeremie Yıl önce

    good talk- thank you

  • Felipe Cortés Jorquera

    Mental health and Shame an insteresting topic! :D thank you

  • David Preston
    David Preston Yıl önce

    What a powerful message so well spoken

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  • Muꭥn
    Muꭥn Yıl önce +3

    well spoken brother

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    Do Nam Quyen Yıl önce +2


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    Giglili gas Yıl önce

    WorstChannel! all is copyrighted



  • zu ma
    zu ma Yıl önce +1

    My family would just say he is focusing too much on unnecessary details or he's influenced by the wrong people and ideas and look down on him like he's a 'sensitive little girl.'

  • Kendra Bell
    Kendra Bell Yıl önce +2

    So powerful but yet so vulnerable. Excellent!!!!

  • JINXtheGamer
    JINXtheGamer Yıl önce +3

    It's OK to go to a therapist and it's NOT OK to use priests and other religious not trained people as a surrogate for therapists. If you seek help got to PROFESIONAL THERAPIST.

  • 86Dynamix
    86Dynamix Yıl önce +7

    Great presentation. Love his vulnerability. Ironically enough some drugs can actually relief or even cure mental ilnesses like depression.

  • John Doe
    John Doe Yıl önce +1

    Something actually intelligent and important.

  • SpaceMaze
    SpaceMaze Yıl önce

    I love how as soon as he even mentioned Africa, his accent thickend

  • youssef bounif
    youssef bounif Yıl önce

    what a woderful speech

  • Kelly M
    Kelly M Yıl önce

    love this, but it's not just in Africa, meaning people not wanting to get help, making jokes and so on.

  • Mike McDermott
    Mike McDermott Yıl önce

    This weekend really needs to happen every weekend. This world is in a lot of pain right now and no one wants to notice it.

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  • Luke Smartassnigga
    Luke Smartassnigga Yıl önce +1

    Same danger wolf

  • Jo King
    Jo King Yıl önce +70

    A weak man will brag that he can be strong. A stronger man will admit that he can be weak.

    • you`re wrong
      you`re wrong Aylar önce

      confidence is the food of the wise man , and the liquor of the fool.

  • Thank You
    Thank You Yıl önce +6

    society has gradually degraded my mental health to the point that there is little hope left. But on the plus side, this has resulted in me taking more attention and care to my own mental health, because no one else ever will, not your loved ones, not your bosses, friends, co workers, nobody. Only you can actually care about your own mind.
    The problem is that in me taking care of my mental health, it means that everyone else has to go second. And people don't take that too well. Try telling your employer you need time off to work on your mental health, they will take it the wrong way and look to replace you in no time, leaving you unemployed. So this entire idea is great as an ideal, but in practice people don't accept it. They will take care of their mental health and happily sacrifice yours for their benefit. Welcome to exploitation and hypocrisy at its best.

    • Daanishya Chhabra
      Daanishya Chhabra Yıl önce +1

      That's not entirely true. Help and support from family and friends helps a lot. I'm sorry that you haven't been able to reach out to your loved ones. But there is still hope. I really hope you are able to come out of this. And not just by yourself... :)
      I know what it's like to feel as though you're battling it alone, but don't ever get discouraged. Don't give up on yourself. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Keep fighting. All the best 👍

  • Linda Mitchell
    Linda Mitchell Yıl önce +17

    Unfortunately, the stigma of mental health is pervasive in the Black community in the States but I think it's changing. The younger generation is willing to talk about it openly and seek help.

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  • chanel campbell
    chanel campbell Yıl önce +5

    Love this 💕

  • Stefan Nikola
    Stefan Nikola Yıl önce

    Those pictures show scenes of scapegoating.

  • Jaznellow
    Jaznellow Yıl önce +10

    Great message for anyone. Mental health is still very much stigmatized in many parts of the world, even as the number of those living with mental health issues increase.

  • monique nelson
    monique nelson Yıl önce +3

    Great talk Sangu. Message received sir! Thank you.

  • Nicholas Anderson
    Nicholas Anderson Yıl önce +9

    Beautiful Talk.

  • Faith
    Faith Yıl önce +95

    As a black African, it's incredibly hard for people to seek help for mental health issues. This is a BREAKTHROUGH

    • Steve
      Steve Yıl önce

      Faith I’m thinking about getting some

    • Amani Allouache
      Amani Allouache Yıl önce

      Faith it's totally a shame that we're in the 21st century and we're still racists. A black man is a totally normal man... Black as white as red are just colors. All human beings, as we're thought at ethis in medical schools, are supposed to be treated the same, no rationality when in comes to color or religion. So if you black people don't get your rights or being well treated go fight for it. And if a doctor refuses to, then he must be a big liar and no longer considered as a doctor or even as a human being.

  • VanGooghh
    VanGooghh Yıl önce

    Does anyone know which TED venue this was held in?

  • Gomen Nasai
    Gomen Nasai Yıl önce +28

    This goes to all of the people who say that mental illnesses are first world problems because "they don't happen in Africa".

  • GalaxyEspeon
    GalaxyEspeon Yıl önce +50

    Just 2 days I nearly ended my life. This was my 3rd attempt within 7 months. Yesterday I made a appointment for a therapist that specializes in cases like mine. And now this video came into my notifications. :)

    • Ebony Rose
      Ebony Rose Yıl önce +1

      GalaxyEspeon I'm so so glad you are still here and reaching out for help! Things CAN and WILL get better!!! You should be so proud of yourself for going into therapy! I wish you the very best of luck, you can make it!!

    • 2nd3rd1st
      2nd3rd1st Yıl önce +16

      I'm glad that you got help, it can only get better from here. Stray strong! :)

  • Maxi Schmidt
    Maxi Schmidt Yıl önce +14

    Strong man! great Talk! 10/10

  • zenapplejones
    zenapplejones Yıl önce +1

    Big Pharma in Africa Yep Yep Money !!!!

  • Maxi Schmidt
    Maxi Schmidt Yıl önce +3

    Mental health is coping with everydays Stress

  • Cathrine JP
    Cathrine JP Yıl önce +26

    Let's keep the comment section civil on this one, yeah?

  • Alexandra Syrova
    Alexandra Syrova Yıl önce +3

    Good talk, good intent

  • Susan's Easy Recipes
    Susan's Easy Recipes Yıl önce +2

    yes besides physical health is mental health important too. 👍👍

  • Jessaca Rowe
    Jessaca Rowe Yıl önce +2

    I can relate to this so well. I suffered from anxiety and depression in 2014.